How Many Women Regularly Put On Sexy Lingerie For Sex?

An interesting question and I have found an amazing site that answers just that question, or does it.

The site I discovered is personalitycafe.com. You should go and have a browse, its great.

Well anyway, back to the question. Do you put on sexy lingerie for sex?

Well do you?

Here are a few replies from personalitycafe.com.

I have a ton of lingerie, I love it...but I rarely put it on for sex. I tend to mostly wear it around the house when I'm alone, or, when I have (girl)friends over drinking we sometimes dress up in it for fun.


Does anybody else have lingerie they don't usually wear for sex?


Does anybody else wear their lingerie on other occasions? And if so, when?

If I think sex is on the cards I do tend to put on some nicer underwear if I'm in sth skanky.

If I know I'm going to have sex, I put on my nicer underwear, but I feel like the guys that I've had sex with didn't even notice, so that's why I haven't gone all out. All I need is a "Wow you look hot in that" and I'll be headed to Victoria Secret, but since that amount of enthusiasm isn't shown, I'll stick with what I got 'til I need some new stuff.

I'd appreciate it, no-one wants to unwrap a present wrapped in newspaper, they want nice stuff with bows 'n ribbons 'n shit. Thumbs up to the dress ups.

It astonishes me some guys get laid at all with that kind of attitude. *laughs* It usually takes me a minute to roll my jaw back up off the floor~






Though I typically think simple and soft but bright colors are the best. It's delicious~ but not sure you would call it lingerie!

I guess I should have said that I don't really consider sexy/cute underwear to be lingerie (I wear that all the time). I meant more "costume-y" type stuff...corsets, garters, stockings, etc

Lingerie is an interesting ritual. The selection process at the store, the envisioning of how she would look in it, the colors against her skin, how they feel, how they make her feel. It's not necessarily about you.

Yet she projects all those decisions from the moment she bought it until the moment she reveals it to you. Whether you were part of that original thought process when she bought it or not, when you see her in it... you are now a part of all of that.

A part of the fantasy, however subtle. Who cares? She does of course. She cared enough to show you the result of a process that was started long before she clasped on the bra before bedding with you. It's worth acknowledging with more than just arousal~ it should be acknowledged with your eyes, your lips or your words, but above all it should be acknowledged.

That's very cute, but if someone bought me a new lamp, I wouldn't care. I didn't ask for a lamp. That's great if you spent days picking out the perfect lamp, and I appreciate you care so much about me, but it's not something I'm very interested in so my appreciation would be very limited.

Now imagine if instead of discussing a lamp we're talking about a woman wearing sexy lingerie. I just don't care very much.

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that lamps and lingerie are not at all the same thing. One's a (admittedly mundane) bringer of illumination, and the other is a part of a mating ritual.

Also, it's the thought that counts. It’s one of those things that men want to know — but really don’t want to know.

What does it take to get a woman into the sack?

Cindy M. Meston, a professor of clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, along with fellow psychology professor David M. Buss asked 1,006 women exactly that.

In their recently published book, Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivation: From Adventure to Revenge (and Everything In Between), they uncovered hundreds of reasons, deep, dark, delicious or devilish.

There’s medicinal sex (Yes Dear, I have a headache), mate-guarding sex and mercy sex, duty sex, jealousy sex and competitive sex, barter sex, break-up sex and booty calls.

Meston will be one of the speakers this week at ideaCity, the three-day conference that began in Toronto.

Presented by media impresario Moses Znaimer and co-sponsored by the Star, ideaCity annually brings together an eclectic mix of authors, scientists and artists.

We reached Meston at her sexual psychophysiology laboratory, where she conducts research on women’s sexual experiences.

This is an edited and condensed version of our conversation.

Q: What’s the one thing we should know about women’s sexuality?

A: There’s a desynchrony between the genital arousal response and how aroused a woman says she is which is different from what you find in men. There’s a close connection between the erectile function and how aroused a man says he is. In women they’re not very correlated.

Q: Why do we need to know if women can name 237 reasons to have sex?

A: From a clinical perspective, if we’re to make advances in trying to enhance sexual pleasure or resolve problematic behaviour, we need to understand the underlying motivations. For example, if a woman is engaging in a lot of high-risk unprotected sexual behaviour, then a clinical intervention that teaches her to use condoms and to engage in safer sexual choices is not going to be effective if her underlying motivation is that she’s trying to punish herself.

Q: Let’s talk about some of the evolutionary reasons.

A: It’s not so much that there are evolutionary reasons but evolutionary explanations for a lot of the reasons.

Most of them pertain to sexual attraction. Women like tall men; they like muscular men. There’s actually evidence that tall muscular men have more sexual partners, more live-in girlfriends, more children. The body type and the height signal a man’s ability to protect the woman and possibly provide for her because he has the strength to do so.

Q: But these would also make them fairly risky as partners, no?

A: Yes, they’re the bad boys who also have more extramarital affairs.

You can divide the world into dads and cads. They tend to be the cads. But a lot of women reproduce with the cads and then marry a dad — or cuckold a dad with a cad — and pass on the good genes but then have a nice dad to raise the other guy’s good genes.

Random genetic testing shows that 10 per cent of people who think that their dad is a certain person are wrong.

Q: Everybody thinks women have sex to get a man, to hold on to a man, that kind of thing. Were you surprised by what you found?

A: There are certainly some unexpected reasons. Women intentionally having sex to give a man a STD. To get closer to God. Tons of revenge sex. Because they were bored or they were cold or there was nothing better on TV.

Q: A lot of women are taking SSRI antidepressants, such as Prozac, and we know they inhibit sexual response. Is there hope for them?

A: The good news is that, since SSRIs were introduced 20 years ago, there’s been a lot of research on how SSRIs affect sexual arousal and satisfaction. Now they’re developing antidepressants, which reduce sexual side effects dramatically. There’s been real progress.

Q: Okay, so how many women have sex just because it feels good?

A: I don’t have a statistic that I can accurately cite but I can tell you that sex for pleasure was the main category why women have sex in our study. I was so happy to find that. We really thought that the No. 1 reason would be for love, commitment, to keep a man or please a man. But it wasn’t; it was for physical gratification.

Q: So then why do many women have orgasm problems?

A: It’s not the case that women have orgasm problems. The most common problem is desire problem.

Q: What do you think of attempts to medicalize that?

A: It’s not that I’m a drug pusher but if there’s a drug that can make sex feel good for women then I’m all for it. It just hasn’t been discovered yet.

Q: But I can’t imagine that taking a pill would help if a partner isn’t attractive or attentive.

A: That’s one of the big gender differences between men and women. It’s not just about what a woman’s genitals are doing that creates arousal. It has so much to do with how her partner is acting towards her, is the house clean, are the kids screaming, was the dog fed, did somebody piss her off at work . . . It’s so easy to be distracted because the genital signal isn’t very strong unless she is really super aroused. And to get there for many women, it takes a special event, a lot of foreplay, a massage, a bubble bath, a walk along the beach, a nice dinner. But there’s not enough time to have that five times a week.

For men the genital response is out there. It’s noticeable, it’s very strong, it’s hard to ignore.

Women’s genital response is easy to ignore. So a drug that increases genital response is not going to work because there are all these things in the environment, which play a role. Anything can distract women whereas a man, an earthquake might be happening, and he’s still able to focus on his penis.

But there are other mechanisms for women to enjoy themselves.

Rumour has it that masturbation works. You don’t need a man to have sexual pleasure.

Q: No wonder men go bald. What can they do to make up for their, um, shortcomings?

A: They can get a good job, make lots of money, and have high status and show a lot of confidence and a good sense of humour.

All women love to look sexy. After all the sexy lingerie could make every woman feel really desirable, daring, luxurious and beautiful.

It is the main reason why a lot of women are looking for the latest fashion sexy clothing as lingerie to wear at home in order to seduce their men.

If you want to bring enthusiasm in your love life, you have to find ways to keep your relationship new and fresh. Make every day exciting by surprising your partner.

Such a way in which you can add vivacity to your life is by buying sexy lingerie.

It is a well-known fact that men love seeing women in their sexy lingerie. They get excited and feel erotic.


You can get sexy lingerie in silk or satin. Satin lingerie is extremely sensitive to touch and feel. Your partner will be pleased stroke and would not be able to hold on to feel against your body.

Many men love to have their women wear something special for an evening of romance and love. What many men do not realize though is that most women get a little jittery about showing a less than perfect body off in something a little scanty.

Perhaps she has had several children, is past her best years - in her opinion of course - and she has some wobbly bits where there used to be some firm and plump skin. All this added together makes a woman feel less than adorable.

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Here then is where the problem begins. Women and men tend to think in different circles. Women will see all their own faults, whereas a man will see what he wants to see.


He will not take note of that extra line on the face, or the extra few pounds added to a body that he has loved for perhaps several years, all he will see is his woman and how she has tried to dress specifically for him on this occasion.

So for the 'normal' woman who wants to join in the fun with the husband or significant other, sexy lingerie is a must to bring out the romance.

Even those extra large women are now so confident that they will wear some very daring outfits to entice the man in their lives - and why not?

Perhaps ladies who feel that they want to hide certain parts of their bodies should peruse some interesting websites where literally anything goes when it comes to sexy lingerie.

Here they can see models wearing the articles and get some idea of what may suit them. They can see which pieces of sexy lingerie will disguise or lessen their curves and choose accordingly.

In addition to sexy lingerie, you can also get satin dresses for you and your partner. There are satin dresses, satin night door and satin dresses to increase your desires. There is another thing that can double the fun and excitement. It is none other than satin sheets.

You can get these soft and smooth, printing costs, satin sheets to completely turn on your partner. A pair of satin sheets would certainly make you more sensual pleasure and excitement.

Of course, the ubiquitous stockings and suspenders outfit will never go out of fashion. However, sometimes the woman can ring the changes by changing form black to some other luscious colour that is available. Corsets are also another way to liven up the look and many come in lace or even leather.

For the truly exotic look, bras and thongs or g-strings come in sparkly rhinestones to really brighten up the night. In candle light, these must look exceptional and worn under some less revealing lingerie will add a surprise when it comes time to disrobe.

Floor length negligee sets are a firm favourite for most women since they cover a multitude of sins. But the choice of styles and colours are overwhelming.

Satin or shiny materials are perhaps the favourite but the colours come in everything from black to white and all the colours in between.

Backless or those with tiny straps lay bear a well toned back and is an open invitation to the man to touch. Some negligees have front or side splits that reach up to the waist. These give a tantalizing glimpse of leg every time the woman moves and really sets the scene for romantic play.

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You Can Wear Your Sexy Lingerie Anywhere And At Any Time You Want.

Sexy lingerie can be found in almost every woman’s closet. They need to have at least one piece of sexy underwear as this makes them feel more sensual and attractive.

But who says that we can only have one piece of Sexy Lingerie? Ladies we can now have as many items of lingerie as we want. Some women wear sensual lingerie daily, while others prefer to wear it on special occasions.

I know several women who take time buying their lingerie. To them it is their way on expressing themselves, to make them feel more confident and self-assured. When I purchased my first piece of sexy lingerie, I understood how they felt. Wearing attractive lingerie can really make you feel sexy.

A large percentage of people, men and women, would think that alluring lingerie is only for special intimate occasions and not used anytime other time, but the truth is really the opposite of that.

Gorgeous Sexy Lingerie can be worn as a daily item that you wear under your outfit. It has many benefits and many uses.

Normal shaped panties always leave a very bad mark on tight clothes, and sometimes on clothes that are not so tight. After a long time sitting down, you stand up and everybody will notice two ugly lines passing over you buttocks outlining the panties you are wearing. Sexy lingerie offers a brilliant solution.

Instead of those ugly panties you can choose the T back, the thong, and the boy shorts. While the first two choices will change your old panties into a thin thread that passes through the centre line without leaving a mark, the third one will take the two line way down so, no one will notice them leading to the same excellent result.

Arousing lingerie can help improve the cleavage of your body and give you the desired look that you have been hoping for. A bustier or a corset can help improve your bust, waist and hip areas in order to look well trimmed and in great shape.

Wearing naughty lingerie doesn’t simply mean that you wear less. For example, sexy costumes are another kind of sexy lingerie.

It is understood that sexiness does not just depend on body shape. Sexiness, I believe is a state of mind. You have to feel sexy to look sexy. And what better way to feel sexy than wearing sexy lingerie.

Every day, most women work as hard as men do. It’s good for a workingwoman to occasionally remember that she is a woman. Although she may be wearing a helmet and jeans, she will feel very much like a woman, having pretty lingerie under those shapeless working cloths.

When Choosing Your Sexy Lingerie, The Little Details Can Make All The Difference.

Baby Doll:

Baby Doll Lingerie is a short nightgown named after the eveningwear that Carroll Baker wore in the movie called “Baby Doll” which was produced in 1956.

A Baby Doll is a blousy Lingerie top with fashionable fitted cups and a flowing mini-skirt type bottom that usually ends at the upper thigh area but may extend to 6 inches above the knee.

Matching sexy panties often accompany Baby Doll Lingerie sets. A Sexy Baby Doll comes in all varieties of colours and fabrics. Many women prefer the busty Baby Doll tops because they tend to be looser fitting and offer more coverage in the chest area.

Baby Doll pyjamas are also a popular item. Several types of Sexy Baby Doll Lingerie are available including sheer, see through, mesh, fringe, and satin and lace Baby Dolls.

Corset:

A favourite for men however has to be a corset or basque.

Corset Lingerie is often made with boning to give shape to the garment and to give you a more tailored look. A Corset Top begins just above the bust line, continues under the arm and down shaping the bust, lower waist and hip area.

The bottom hem of some Corset tops are often lower in the front and rise on the sides giving a V-Shape pattern to the bottom of the women’s corset.

Laces are used in the back, on the sides or in the front of the Corsets to tighten and shape the bust and waist area to your particular body type. Matching sexy panties normally accompany the Corset Top.

Women’s Corset Lingerie is available in many fabrics and styles such as lace, satin, mesh and strapless to name a few. Add a pair of lace fingerless gloves and sexy thigh hi’s and you are all set!

Bustier:

Bustier Lingerie is a tight fitting, sleeveless and often strapless, form-fitting garment meant to accentuate and support the bust area.

Bustier’s start just above the bust area and follow the hourglass shape of your body normally ending at the rib cage, waist or sometimes the hip area.

The waist area of a Bustier Corset can be tailored longer in front and shorter on the sides to form a V-Pattern at the bottom hem. Many accent their sexy Bustier with a mesh panty, leg garter and sheer thigh High hose.

Satin, Lace, Silk, and Sheer Lingerie Bustier’s are among a few of the most popular items when it comes to a Bustier top and they are often incorporated into the Bridal Bustier collections. For a more deliberate and sexy ensemble, a cup less Bustier is also a popular choice.

Many people get mixed up between a bustier and a corset. The way I help differentiate bustiers from corsets is by remembering that a corset does not always have to cover the bust.

The bustier, on the other hand, always will cover the bust, which gives them its name. ... I think this is why they have been fashionable for so long. I know a lot of my girlfriends that are afraid to go bustier shopping because they have no idea what they are supposed to be looking for.

Camisole:

Are perfect to use as sleepwear or as sexy lingerie! Most of the camisoles are often made from fine silk and are often characterized by spaghetti straps.

They are made up of very light material, which include cotton, silk, satin or other fabrics like nylon or spandex. They can be worn over a brazier or even without one.

Some of the camisoles even come with an in-built bra, which is mostly under wired, or other support, which eliminates the need to wear a bra underneath the camisole.

Chemise:

The Chemise (sometimes called a shift or smock) is the frontrunner for all women’s Lingerie as it is the name of the first ever worn Ladies Lingerie undergarment.

The Chemise is a short slip Lingerie top, often sleeveless with shoulder straps, no waistline, and a hem that ends at the hip area. The satin Chemise is still worn as sexy sleepwear or as an undergarment.

The original use of the Chemise was to provide a protection liner from rough outer garments or as a sweat barrier in order to extend the life of fine outer garments made of satin, lace or silk.


Teddy:

Teddy lingerie has been around for many years. It can be worn for many purposes, including comfort or romance.

Teddies are a style of Lingerie eveningwear that covers the torso area and the panty area all in one body suit type piece. A sexy Teddy is normally gathered and fitted at the cup area, covers the midsection, and can be fitted or loose with attached panty.

Lingerie Teddies come is a wide array of styles and fabrics including mesh, lace, sheer, fishnet, halter style, and opaque to name a few. Teddy Lingerie can be strapless but most often comes with spaghetti strap shoulders.

Teddies were also called camiknickers in the earlier days because it is a camisole and a knicker combined.