How Many Women Regularly Put On Sexy Lingerie For Sex?

An interesting question and I have found an amazing site that answers just that question, or does it.

The site I discovered is personalitycafe.com. You should go and have a browse, its great.

Well anyway, back to the question. Do you put on sexy lingerie for sex?

Well do you?

Here are a few replies from personalitycafe.com.

I have a ton of lingerie, I love it...but I rarely put it on for sex. I tend to mostly wear it around the house when I'm alone, or, when I have (girl)friends over drinking we sometimes dress up in it for fun.


Does anybody else have lingerie they don't usually wear for sex?


Does anybody else wear their lingerie on other occasions? And if so, when?

If I think sex is on the cards I do tend to put on some nicer underwear if I'm in sth skanky.

If I know I'm going to have sex, I put on my nicer underwear, but I feel like the guys that I've had sex with didn't even notice, so that's why I haven't gone all out. All I need is a "Wow you look hot in that" and I'll be headed to Victoria Secret, but since that amount of enthusiasm isn't shown, I'll stick with what I got 'til I need some new stuff.

I'd appreciate it, no-one wants to unwrap a present wrapped in newspaper, they want nice stuff with bows 'n ribbons 'n shit. Thumbs up to the dress ups.

It astonishes me some guys get laid at all with that kind of attitude. *laughs* It usually takes me a minute to roll my jaw back up off the floor~






Though I typically think simple and soft but bright colors are the best. It's delicious~ but not sure you would call it lingerie!

I guess I should have said that I don't really consider sexy/cute underwear to be lingerie (I wear that all the time). I meant more "costume-y" type stuff...corsets, garters, stockings, etc

Lingerie is an interesting ritual. The selection process at the store, the envisioning of how she would look in it, the colors against her skin, how they feel, how they make her feel. It's not necessarily about you.

Yet she projects all those decisions from the moment she bought it until the moment she reveals it to you. Whether you were part of that original thought process when she bought it or not, when you see her in it... you are now a part of all of that.

A part of the fantasy, however subtle. Who cares? She does of course. She cared enough to show you the result of a process that was started long before she clasped on the bra before bedding with you. It's worth acknowledging with more than just arousal~ it should be acknowledged with your eyes, your lips or your words, but above all it should be acknowledged.

That's very cute, but if someone bought me a new lamp, I wouldn't care. I didn't ask for a lamp. That's great if you spent days picking out the perfect lamp, and I appreciate you care so much about me, but it's not something I'm very interested in so my appreciation would be very limited.

Now imagine if instead of discussing a lamp we're talking about a woman wearing sexy lingerie. I just don't care very much.

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that lamps and lingerie are not at all the same thing. One's a (admittedly mundane) bringer of illumination, and the other is a part of a mating ritual.

Also, it's the thought that counts. It’s one of those things that men want to know — but really don’t want to know.

What does it take to get a woman into the sack?

Cindy M. Meston, a professor of clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, along with fellow psychology professor David M. Buss asked 1,006 women exactly that.

In their recently published book, Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivation: From Adventure to Revenge (and Everything In Between), they uncovered hundreds of reasons, deep, dark, delicious or devilish.

There’s medicinal sex (Yes Dear, I have a headache), mate-guarding sex and mercy sex, duty sex, jealousy sex and competitive sex, barter sex, break-up sex and booty calls.

Meston will be one of the speakers this week at ideaCity, the three-day conference that began in Toronto.

Presented by media impresario Moses Znaimer and co-sponsored by the Star, ideaCity annually brings together an eclectic mix of authors, scientists and artists.

We reached Meston at her sexual psychophysiology laboratory, where she conducts research on women’s sexual experiences.

This is an edited and condensed version of our conversation.

Q: What’s the one thing we should know about women’s sexuality?

A: There’s a desynchrony between the genital arousal response and how aroused a woman says she is which is different from what you find in men. There’s a close connection between the erectile function and how aroused a man says he is. In women they’re not very correlated.

Q: Why do we need to know if women can name 237 reasons to have sex?

A: From a clinical perspective, if we’re to make advances in trying to enhance sexual pleasure or resolve problematic behaviour, we need to understand the underlying motivations. For example, if a woman is engaging in a lot of high-risk unprotected sexual behaviour, then a clinical intervention that teaches her to use condoms and to engage in safer sexual choices is not going to be effective if her underlying motivation is that she’s trying to punish herself.

Q: Let’s talk about some of the evolutionary reasons.

A: It’s not so much that there are evolutionary reasons but evolutionary explanations for a lot of the reasons.

Most of them pertain to sexual attraction. Women like tall men; they like muscular men. There’s actually evidence that tall muscular men have more sexual partners, more live-in girlfriends, more children. The body type and the height signal a man’s ability to protect the woman and possibly provide for her because he has the strength to do so.

Q: But these would also make them fairly risky as partners, no?

A: Yes, they’re the bad boys who also have more extramarital affairs.

You can divide the world into dads and cads. They tend to be the cads. But a lot of women reproduce with the cads and then marry a dad — or cuckold a dad with a cad — and pass on the good genes but then have a nice dad to raise the other guy’s good genes.

Random genetic testing shows that 10 per cent of people who think that their dad is a certain person are wrong.

Q: Everybody thinks women have sex to get a man, to hold on to a man, that kind of thing. Were you surprised by what you found?

A: There are certainly some unexpected reasons. Women intentionally having sex to give a man a STD. To get closer to God. Tons of revenge sex. Because they were bored or they were cold or there was nothing better on TV.

Q: A lot of women are taking SSRI antidepressants, such as Prozac, and we know they inhibit sexual response. Is there hope for them?

A: The good news is that, since SSRIs were introduced 20 years ago, there’s been a lot of research on how SSRIs affect sexual arousal and satisfaction. Now they’re developing antidepressants, which reduce sexual side effects dramatically. There’s been real progress.

Q: Okay, so how many women have sex just because it feels good?

A: I don’t have a statistic that I can accurately cite but I can tell you that sex for pleasure was the main category why women have sex in our study. I was so happy to find that. We really thought that the No. 1 reason would be for love, commitment, to keep a man or please a man. But it wasn’t; it was for physical gratification.

Q: So then why do many women have orgasm problems?

A: It’s not the case that women have orgasm problems. The most common problem is desire problem.

Q: What do you think of attempts to medicalize that?

A: It’s not that I’m a drug pusher but if there’s a drug that can make sex feel good for women then I’m all for it. It just hasn’t been discovered yet.

Q: But I can’t imagine that taking a pill would help if a partner isn’t attractive or attentive.

A: That’s one of the big gender differences between men and women. It’s not just about what a woman’s genitals are doing that creates arousal. It has so much to do with how her partner is acting towards her, is the house clean, are the kids screaming, was the dog fed, did somebody piss her off at work . . . It’s so easy to be distracted because the genital signal isn’t very strong unless she is really super aroused. And to get there for many women, it takes a special event, a lot of foreplay, a massage, a bubble bath, a walk along the beach, a nice dinner. But there’s not enough time to have that five times a week.

For men the genital response is out there. It’s noticeable, it’s very strong, it’s hard to ignore.

Women’s genital response is easy to ignore. So a drug that increases genital response is not going to work because there are all these things in the environment, which play a role. Anything can distract women whereas a man, an earthquake might be happening, and he’s still able to focus on his penis.

But there are other mechanisms for women to enjoy themselves.

Rumour has it that masturbation works. You don’t need a man to have sexual pleasure.

Q: No wonder men go bald. What can they do to make up for their, um, shortcomings?

A: They can get a good job, make lots of money, and have high status and show a lot of confidence and a good sense of humour.

Sheer Lingerie and other exotic lingerie styles like sheer thongs, sheer bikinis, lace bras, sheer nightgowns, or even a sheer mesh bra and matching bikini panties are not just for the bedroom.

Here is an excellent article from myspaceforgirlz.


Sheer lingerie is hot again. This very popular exotic lingerie style is ultra stylish and seductive at the same time! The lingerie and intimate apparel industry has never been hotter as the demand for more sheer bras, sheer panties, and such exotic lingerie continues to skyrocket.


The many panty and bra styles, designs, fabrics, and hues of this sexy lingerie make shopping far more exciting.


As the amazing variety of lace bras, mesh panties, chemises, teddies and even the classic lacy sheer nightgown styles grow in number, women have more choices and more ways of expressing themselves through exotic lingerie and intimate apparel.


Sheer bras and matching sheer panties give you a hint of demure served with a side of risqué.


The wonderful transparency of lingerie fabrics like lace, silk, and baby fine mesh are peek-a-boo nice, yet still leave a lot to visualize, add some excitement to your everyday life, or even spice things up in your relationship.


Wearing sheer lingerie is a wonderful way to boost your self esteem as something as simple as a sheer camisole or micro bikini sheer and a pretty push up bra set, can instantly make you feel sexy!


How to Buy Sheer Transparent Lingerie


1/ The most important consideration should be comfort. The feel of wonderful satin, lace or mesh is soft and easy against your skin. And, take a look at sheer bras and sheer bikinis in microfiber that have a fantastically soft and snug fit.


2/ The next element is the season. You certainly don’t want to be in fishnet exotic lingerie when it’s thirty degrees below outside. Chattering teeth and buckling knees just do not cut it! The climate should be part of your choice. Synthetic materials like sheer nylon, silk or satin hold the heat and feel warm, thus they work much better for those romantic moments in the middle of winter.


How To Be Comfy


Sheer Lingerie and other exotic lingerie styles like sheer thongs, sheer bikinis, lace bras, sheer nightgowns, or even a sheer mesh bra and matching bikini panties are not just for the bedroom.


For example, sheer thongs are appropriate to wear under your tight jeans because they avoid the dreaded VPL or visible panty lines. If you wish to boost your cleavage further a see through lace push up bra is an excellent choice.


If you just need some motivation to feel good and look great, then don a pair of sheer panties in lace or mesh with a sheer bra or sheer cami under your corporate attire.


Sexy underwear will add a spring to your step and a decidedly delicious sway to your hips. Your colleagues will notice your increased self-esteem!


Avoid This


Bear in mind not to wear sheer panties beneath a full or short skirt on a breezy day! You might not like such a great revelation to potential witnesses if the wind catches your skirt!


Wash And Wear See Through Sheer Lingerie


1/ Wash and dry your lingerie and intimate apparel with special care and it will last you a long time. Simply hand wash with a soap made especially for delicates like Forever New.


2/ Air dry all of your fine lingerie pieces avoid the dryer at all costs. The dryer is a big no no simply because the heat is too intense and melts the delicate fabric fibers

Re-kindle Those Fiery Nights With Sexy Lingerie

Are you finding sex as another routine just like eating?

Do you not even think about it or make strategic efforts to enhance the quality of your sex live?

It’s no surprise; you are unable to work out your romantic relationship in bed. Sex has become too mechanical and as a result a number of bad sex habits plague and destroy your sexual life.

Silence! Silence!! Silence!!! For most partners, all you hear during sex are only groans and screams. It is a wrong sex habit.

Talking during sexual intercourse is a key to sexual fulfilment. The more you communicate, the better you get at talking and the freer two of you will be to make suggestions about sex moves and positions, to tease each other with sexual jokes (this actually increases sexual arousal) and to direct attention to areas where you are getting less or more pleasure for the purpose of making adjustments

Man making the moves always. Women are naturally reserved and shy with regards to initiating moves during sex. This really should not be so. One of the sources of sexual issuses is because women are not as free as men during sex.

As the man, it is your duty to make your lover as wild as you possibly can in bed. After all, your goal as a couple is to enjoy each other maximally and to keep away from a situation where either of you starts to steal the show outside the home.

Having sex in darkness. Many couples have formed the habit of turning off the light before sex. This is simply not the best plan.

Your bodies should be seen by either of you to maximize stimulation. Having lights on during sex increases visual stimuli, which leads to faster stimulation especially for men.

Being in darkness is similar to eating your favourite food without seeing it. The pleasure is less. Do you agree? Try having the lights on the next time you enter bed with her

Same sex positions. Many couples, especially older ones widely used to traditional sex positions. This removes the sexual intensity and variety from your sex life. No wonder, many couples do not even anticipate another day of sex.

Trying out new and unconventional sex positions, not only makes sex more interesting, it also increases sexual pleasure.

A fulfilling sex life is the answer to so many unanswered questions between a man and his woman. From my investigation and knowledge, if the man is sexually sound and fit, the woman cooperates and surrenders easily and sex turns into a ceremony to expect. Take the initiative and give your manhood a boost right now.

The Female Orgasm Is One Of The Biggest Mysteries In Sex.

Do you, as a woman, find it difficult to reach an orgasm?

Do you, as a man, find it difficult to make a woman reach orgasm and satisfy her to the maximum?

The female orgasm is probably as desirable as it is complex.

The sexual libido of a woman has four stages, from the beginning of arousal until after the orgasm.

It begins with excitement (increased blood pressure and lubrication), goes on to the plateau stage with a swelling of the muscles in the vaginal area, until she reaches the actual orgasm, which consists of a number of muscular contractions (about 6-15, varying in length).

After the climax, women reach the resolution period with relaxation of muscles and return to normal breathing.

Even if easy to describe, many men and women get frustrated over the female orgasm. In order to lighten the dark of female pleasure and clear up the mess that orgasm myths have created, here a few truths and falsities about the centre of female satisfaction:

Every woman can have an orgasm during sexual intercourse.

True Or False.

Although every woman is capable of having an orgasm during sexual intercourse with a man, only about one-third of women actually have them. Despite that, they are often supported by additional manual stimulation.

Women don’t enjoy sex without having an orgasm.

False.

Whether a woman enjoys sex depends on sexual arousal in general. The orgasm is only the third stage of the sexual response cycle. Before that, lubrication and increased blood pressure already indicate a pleasurable feeling. And if you really want to know, ask her. If she’s a keeper, she’ll tell you the truth.

Most women fake orgasms.

Partly true.

Almost half of women reported having faked an orgasm, according to a recent ABC News poll. They usually either don’t want to hurt their partner or want sex to end sooner. To all the faking girls out there: If a guy can handle to sleep with you, he should also be able to handle the truth.

Every woman has a G-Spot.

Not yet answerable.

The famous spot, introduced by German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg, has led many people on a pleasurable quest, and into frustration. A new study by British researchers claims the G-spot is and remains a myth.

While it is true that there is still not sufficient scientific evidence that it exists, many people enjoy its penetration by rubbing the upper area of the vagina with a finger, toy, or penis. I’d say, don’t be discouraged by the study but go on your own quest and enjoy the journey!

Orgasms are necessary to get pregnant.

False.

The only orgasm that is important for conception is the male one. Although many studies suggest that the muscle contractions and the additional lubrication during the female orgasm help the male’s semen to reach the egg, this aspect has not yet been fully proven.

The orgasm is more intense when you flex your muscles.

True.

Flexing your PC muscles (located around the clitoris) can help make your orgasm more intense. If you exercise those muscles regularly (by flexing and relaxing them several times), you can control them even better. Now there’s some exercise you won’t have an excuse for because you can do it everywhere and in any weather condition.

Women can’t have multiple orgasms.

False.

Every woman can have multiple orgasms but not every woman wants to. After an orgasm, a woman can have several more with further stimulation because not all women go through the refractory, or recreational, period after an orgasm.

Some just don’t like to continue after an orgasm, but if they do, they can have many more. Multiple orgasms are very rare during sexual intercourse, but mostly reachable by manual or oral stimulation. Trying out is the best method at this point.

Despite scientific evidence for many of those phenomena, every orgasm is different and even the absence of one is not a physical dysfunction. Often, women just haven’t really tried it yet. The best way to explore the complexity of your own orgasm is discovering it yourself first.